When adopting an adopted child, a family may face various difficulties in upbringing. How to behave with a foster child?
Instructions
Step 1
You should not demand gratitude from the child. Often the parents of adopted children expect that the child will express this feeling to them in every possible way, because the new parents have warmed him up and gave him a chance for a better future. Children always feel gratitude to the people who accepted them into a new family, but perhaps they simply weren’t taught to show it correctly, or even to express feelings at all. Therefore, time, upbringing, the right approach will definitely change everything.
Step 2
It happens that an adopted child in a new family feels lost, especially if there are more children in the family. He cannot understand what his place in the family is and what will happen to him next. These children often misbehave. Parents should immediately pay attention to this and take action. Education should take place so that the child does not have such feelings. Make him immediately feel like a full member of the family, loved and needed person. If it is difficult for a child to adapt, you can turn to social workers and psychologists.
Step 3
After the child has moved from the orphanage, you should not give him a lot of freedom. He was brought up in rather strict conditions, so this is the norm for him. Of course, I immediately want to show the child a different life, surround him with care and love, pamper him a little, but be careful, this behavior of the parents can lead to permissiveness, the child will become more difficult to control. Therefore, do not be afraid to be stricter with him. Only over time, gradually show your child more and more gentleness.
Step 4
Children from an orphanage can bring bad habits with them to a new family. For example, the ability to use foul language. Do not immediately shout, punish, or beat out bad manners. Gradually, calmly explain and wean the child from the use of rudeness, by your example, show how to behave correctly. Once in a different environment, children are able to quickly re-educate themselves.
Step 5
Don't expect your child to quickly bond with you emotionally. Be patient, it may take a long time for this connection to arise. With good, proper treatment, the child will love you as parents and all the work, time spent, all the experiences will be fully rewarded.
