Quarrels in the family are traditionally perceived as a factor that negatively affects relationships. But psychologists are sure: a quarrel is a quarrel, strife!
If you learn to quarrel without resorting to insults, learn to find a solution that is acceptable to both, then your quarrels will not destroy, but, on the contrary, strengthen family relations. What benefit can be expected from a “right” quarrel?
Stress Relief Tool
If you keep negative emotions in yourself, then nothing good will end. Sooner or later, depression sets in (the result of prolonged stress) or a nervous breakdown occurs (a huge scandal, which will be almost impossible to manage). A quarrel is a lifesaver that helps to throw out emotions so that they do not destroy us from the inside. By expressing our emotions, we relieve stress and can, by unloading the nervous system, move on.
In order for a quarrel to be not a way to accumulate negativity, but a way to relieve stress, you need to learn how to avoid insults and not let yourself be drawn into an endless listing of past offenses.
A way to talk about problems
Fighting can be a way to draw attention to a problem that worries you, but your anxiety does not resonate with your other half. An expressive way of expressing dissatisfaction is a signal that you are very dissatisfied with the state of affairs and it is time to urgently change something.
Advice. If you expressed your indignation at his actions to your partner, poured your contempt on and calmed down on this, then the problem remained unresolved. It is more correct to do this: express your feelings (not accusations!), Listen to your partner's opinion about the situation, propose solutions and not be content with excuses until you hear something like "Darling, I will try!"
A way to "cheer up" intimate relationships
After a rainy day, the sun peeking out is perceived in a new way. After a quarrel, reconciliation is so sweet! These moments of intense emotions also refresh the intimate relationships of the spouses, who, after a quarrel, will surely sparkle with new colors and strengthen your feelings.
Touches, hugs, kisses are the universal love language that will help you to "correctly" end any quarrel.
The way of forming a culture of relations
Couples, who at first very violently sort things out, but continue to stay together, gradually develop certain rules of behavior in conflict situations. Therefore, over time, they learn to conduct a constructive dialogue, without engaging in meaningless skirmish. Such dialogue further strengthens the marital relationship, helping to avoid misunderstandings and stay close to people, while quarreling less and less.
Advice. The main achievement of experienced spouses who have survived more than one family "storm" is the ability of partners to listen and hear each other even during a quarrel.
