In the first year after giving birth, a woman experiences serious psychological difficulties. Very often she is haunted by obsessive fears and desires. This usually happens if the birth was the first. Something torments the young mother all the time and prevents her from feeling the happiness of motherhood.
The first thing that torments a young mother most of all is fear for the life and health of the baby. The woman is afraid that something might happen to him, that she, because of her inexperience, might do something wrong, it will only get worse. Sometimes a woman is afraid that the child has suddenly stopped breathing in a dream, that he will fall out of bed.
Another problem is an irresistible desire to remain alone, to hide from loved ones. Such a desire can splash out in relation to the husband and other children in the form of irritation. A woman is very often annoyed because of every trifle, from this various conflicts with her husband appear. Sometimes the child's father does not refuse all possible help in education. It seems to a woman that she is unable to raise a child.
All these reasons lead to postpartum depression. It is connected with the fact that a woman is ashamed or afraid to admit her fears, she becomes isolated, depression happens to her. There are several ways to help you cope with this depression.
If the child sleeps nearby, then you should not put him in another bed, it is quite possible to put the child with you, although pediatricians do not recommend this. But if this is really better for the child, for the mother, then it is better to do so.
While the baby is breastfeeding, it is not at all necessary to feed the baby by the hour, as many doctors advise, you can breastfeed on demand, so you will save yourself and your baby's nerves.
Ask for help from your family, your parents, your husband. Feel free to ask for help, especially if you are inexperienced in parenting.
Walk with your child more often. It is not necessary to carry a stroller with you all the time; you can do this in a sling. You shouldn't close yourself around one child. Take time for yourself, meet with friends, get pleasant emotions from your favorite activities.
Do not abuse visits to children's clinics. Especially if being overly suspicious is your trait.
A young mother is very well influenced by the opportunity to be alone for at least an hour a day, so loved ones should understand about this.
Do some light exercises. This will help you keep your peace of mind. Let your free time be devoted not to household chores, but to yourself. If there is an opportunity to go on a trip, then you should not refuse it. Usually, babies can very easily tolerate climate change and long travels, so you should not be afraid to take your child with you.
It is better to refuse to communicate with those people who always give advice, especially if these advice annoys you.
Make sure to make self-care an important and everyday part of your day. Your baby needs a healthy, fun, well-rested mom, so take some time for yourself. You don't have to give all of yourself to raising children, it is important that you yourself feel great.
