Various life situations require work, patience and effort to achieve the desired goals. However, in some cases, the efforts and sacrifices invested are meaningless, deliberately unsuccessful and do not imply a full return. These include relationships without reciprocity, based on false hopes and plans.
Reasons for unrequited love
Unrequited love is a common phenomenon in the field of relationships between a man and a woman. Non-reciprocal relationships rarely have a positive outlook. Investing emotions, energy and time in a relationship with a dubious outcome is a personal matter for each person. Some people tend to enter into partner-dependent relationships on a subconscious level. Without realizing it, they mostly attract relationships in which they take the position of the victim.
Fear of loneliness, lack of self-confidence, personal immaturity of a person prompts him to choose a partner who is not able to reciprocate. This is how unrequited feelings are born. As a rule, the more the object of sympathy rejects love, the stronger the attachment to him is formed.
The qualities of the beloved are significantly embellished, and the person in love begins to live in a world of illusions. He does not hear the advice of others, is not able to think adequately and rationally. Unrequited love is accompanied by a whole spectrum of vivid emotions, unrealizable hopes and unjustified sacrifices. In this case, the person loves not the partner himself, but in his image.
You should control the relationship with a partner and feelings for him in situations in which a full-fledged relationship is impossible due to various circumstances. For example, it is highly undesirable to start a love relationship with a person who already has a soul mate or family. Unrequited feelings in such a situation will lead to mistakes and sad experiences.
There are known cases of unrequited love that occurs in a person after parting with his partner. One of the members of the broken up couple begins to desperately try to return the past relationship. His feelings for his former partner become stronger, he is unable to come to terms with what happened. The desire to return the beloved again turns into an obsession. As a rule, at this time, the object of love reacts to the behavior of a former beloved person in a distant and cold manner.
The consequences of unrequited love
The inability to achieve reciprocity makes you suffer and leads to a depressive state. The danger of unrequited relationships is that they prevent a person from leading a full life. Insomnia, anxiety appear, mental and physical health deteriorates.
As a result, problems appear at work and in relationships with loved ones. A person is immersed only in the problem of unrequited love, unable to be distracted and get rid of addiction. In a number of such cases, when an independent solution to the problem is not foreseen, the help of a psychologist is needed.
The period of unrequited feelings is a time for revising values, changing attitudes towards one's personality, looking for problems in building relationships with a partner. It is necessary to understand and decide which relationships are worthy of a person's attention, time and emotions. Life is fleeting and unpredictable, is it worth it to waste it on a deliberately unsuccessful outcome and negative emotions?
